Jane’s Tai Chi Blog Part 2

So, by the end of part 1 of this blog I had finished at the point where Julie and I were having lessons with Chris and Chris was coming once a fortnight to our group meetings to teach our members Tai Chi for Arthritis Part 1. This was becoming a very popular part of our programme, but this was itself becoming a problem. Group members were unable to progress far, as new people kept joining each week and we had to keep going back to the beginning.

Julie and I tried to think of ways around this problem, but we were at a loss, we discussed this with Chris and he went off one week commenting that “I’ll give it some thought!’ We just thought that was the end of it and he would forget about it. A couple of weeks later he came back with the comment “I’ve had an idea” I thought this sounded promising, but had no idea what he could have thought of, then he casually dropped his, to me anyway, bombshell of “I think you two should train as Tai Chi for Health instructors!” There was a very long pause before he got a response, Julie took it in her stride, but as the saying goes, I was ‘gobsmacked’!! I don’t know what I thought he was going to say, but it wasn’t that!

In part one of this blog I mentioned that I was shy and nervous, well I have got a bit better with age, but this was so far out of my comfort zone that it might as well have been in another galaxy! On the other hand, I knew if I backed out, I would be completely disappointed with myself, so in a state of great fear and panic I decided to give it a try.

Training

Julie and I had about three months before the training course, so plenty of time to perfect a form that we already knew well, but I knew I needed some extra help, so I asked one of my doggy walking companions, who happened to be a hypnotherapist if she could help. Sharrie, from Think Hypno helped me immensely, she built up my confidence and taught me coping strategies that could help me in situations that make me nervous, not just tai chi training courses.

Strangely, the thought of teaching a class did not worry me anywhere near as much as the training course, but I survived thecourse and came out with my certificat

es. Angus, my husband, came to pick us up from our course and commented that we were a bit quiet, so we let him think I had failed. We were both just extremely tired, but poor Angus spent the journey home trying to work out how he was going to cope with my disappointment. I let him off the hook just as we reached home! In all my exams and college courses that I have completed throughout my life, this was, for me my greatest achievement. Tai Chi has given me both peace of mind and my biggest challenge!

Strictly No Falling /Age UK

At this point in time, we only intended teaching our Fibro Active Group members, but very soon we were approached by Jo from Strictly No Falling, she asked if we would consider teaching a course for people with balance issues and Strictly no Falling / Age UK would sponsor us. We thought about it and decided that we would do this, as it would earn us some money to support Fibro Active, especially as the subs taken at our weekly group meetings were not quite covering the room rent.

Our first open class was launched at ‘Spring into Action’ an event jointly hosted by Fibro Active and Strictly No Falling. We had a lot of interest at that first taster session with about 29 people attending; I think it was a record for Strictly No Falling! Julie insisted that we do a demonstration of Tai Chi for Arthritis Part 1 & 2, we both thought that the only ones watching would be those doing the taster session, imagine my horror when I turned round and the rest of the Spring into Action stall holders and attendees were watching!!

But guess what? I survived it!

From the beginning of this first open class we have progressed to teaching 4-5 classes per week.

Tai Chi in the Park

Another of our ideas was to have an informal practice session, with no teaching, on the last Saturday of the month, we started this last year on ‘World Tai Chi and Qigong Day’ This first outing was quite successful, even though we struggled through storm ‘Hannah’ and ended up wet and very, very cold! It took me the rest of that day to warm up.

We have continued with these meetings which are open to anyone and have had people from all Tai Chi groups join in, but the loyal core are those in our and Chris’ classes. We are just trying to promote tai chi to everyone and to connect as many tai chi players as possible! Those that attend these sessions all seem to enjoy them.

Covid 19

In all my worrying and catastrophising (not anywhere near as bad as before Tai Chi and Sharrie) would I have dreamt up this disaster! Lockdown meant the end of tai chi and group meetings and the worry of not connecting with our group and tai chi students, some of whom can be quite isolated; but we soon thought of Zoom!

Zoom brought about a whole new way of teaching, our insurance stated that we should be able to see our students all the time, a bit difficult when we teach with our backs to our class! Between us we soon came up with the solution, I have a room large enough for all of me to be seen, Julie doesn’t, so I teach and Julie watches and nothing gets past Julie! We soon had four tai chi classes running plus our group session every fortnight.

Now with the lockdown easing we are about to venture out to our local park to begin real life classes. These classes will have to be small for now, but it is helping to get those of our students and members who can’t do Zoom out and socialising, at a safe distance of course. It gets me out too! I am used to being on my own and I am happy to be this way, but teaching has forced me to engage with more people, and amazingly I find I enjoy it!

Health and Wellbeing

I wish more people would try Tai Chi; it has an image suggesting that it is just for older people or those with mobility problems – but it’s not!! Tai chi is for everyone from very young to old, some athletes use it to help them focus and centre themselves before competitions; it has been used to help with exam nerves in teenagers. The buzzword of now is ‘mindfulness’ and this is what tai chi is! It has been around for thousands of years. However, the west is only just waking up to the benefits. As I’ve said before though, it’s not a quick fix, the physical benefits can be felt within a few weeks, but the benefits to health and wellbeing take a lot longer, possibly for the rest of our lives, but learning and challenging our minds should take forever and it’s never too late to start.

Sadly, there will always be those who say it’s too slow, or it takes too long to learn. One of my friends told me that she “wouldn’t be seen dead doing tai chi!” (It’s not that slow!!) Obviously, they are missing the point; I just hope that as more people start learning, more people will want to learn. If it were to become ‘trendy’, even my friend would probably give it a try!

Confidence

I know that I will never be perfect, I will still mix up my left and right, occasionally suggesting that my students put their left hand under their right foot, I can mix up body parts too! This causes some amusement! But everyone seems to enjoy my ‘errors’ saying that it shows I’m human….but I very much enjoy teaching, I have gained a great deal of confidence since I first started tai chi. There is so much to learn! I know I will never be able to learn all that I want, but I have learned and am still learning different forms and will continue to do so for as long as I am able! Tai Chi has become a very important part of my life; I would be lost without it.

Through tai chi, I have met some amazing people including those who have helped to set up our classes, my kind and supportive trainers and especially all those who have joined our weekly sessions.

As a final note, in a recent crisis of confidence, Sharrie told me to write down all my achievements, and not to forget the Queens Award, as not many have managed that one!

My Challenge

 When I joined Fibro Active, I made a pact with myself, it was to try anything that was offered, even if it was out of my comfort zone, so when Julie announced she’d found a class, much against my “better” judgement I agreed to give it a go. I’m so glad that I did, without being melodramatic; tai chi has changed my life!

Here comes the hard sell from the reformed tai chi practitioner!

It will take around 12 weeks to notice a difference in muscle strength, balance and stamina, although some notice changes along the way. It takes a lot longer, probably the rest of our lives to really start to understand tai chi and its principles. Tai Chi is a way of life; the many forms of ‘Tai Chi Chuan’ are a small part of this. Just ‘playing’ tai chi and devoting the time for this form of exercise will provide a workout for body and mind, it doesn’t matter how good or bad you are at it, it still works. It can be done pretty much anywhere, doesn’t need any specialist equipment, can be done by young and old, it can be practiced standing, sitting and some forms can be done lying in bed and for rehabilitation. It is especially good for keeping the mind active for those of us who are getting a bit older, remembering a longer form of tai chi like the Yang 24 or Sun 73 takes dedication, patience and practice, practice, practice, but it is worth every minute!

Every morning, I try to work through all the forms I know and spend a little time working on whatever I am presently learning, if I don’t get the chance to do this I don’t beat myself up about it, but I do miss it! My days flow better when I practice and somehow, life is more manageable. I know that if I had experienced this Covid 19 lockdown situation and all the stress and business worries that I’m now experiencing, before my tai chi, I would have been in a constant state of worry and panic. Ok, I’m not going to say that I don’t ever get stressed and irritated, but I really am amazed at how calm and accepting I have become.

With this in mind, it saddens me that so many give up tai chi because it is too slow, or too difficult or they cannot remember the moves, but I accept that it is not for everybody.

With this blog, so far, I have tried to explain a bit about Tai Chi Chuan and how much it has added to my life, but it is getting a bit long, so I will finish now. I will write part 2 soon and explain how Julie, Chris and I brought tai chi to our Fibro Active group meetings.

Autumn Dates For Tai Chi Classes

TCA = Tai Chi for Arthritis (Sun Style Short Form) TCB = Tai Chi for Beginners (Yang Style)

Have a look at our new programme, we have some interesting and exciting things happening in the run up to Christmas!

Tai Chi in the Park

27th July at 10am is the next date for our informal tai chi practice session in West Park in the floral garden, adjacent to the butterfly gates.  These sessions have been sponsored by Public Health, they are free and everyone is welcome, there is no formal instruction – come and play tai chi!

World Tai Chi Day

World Tai Chi and Qigong Day was on April 27th. As the timelines reached 10am around the planet, millions of people were practicing tai chi and qigong in it’s many forms. Looking on the World Tai Chi site we can see spectacular demonstrations in beautiful settings  around the world.

But for us, World Tai Chi Day dawned, pouring with rain, blowing a gale and freezing cold, thank you storm Hannah! This was not how I had imagined it!  But we set off, not really expecting anyone to brave the weather and were really surprised to welcome around 40 people; some were our students, other were from different tai chi schools and we all joined together and played tai chi!

Thanks to everyone who was brave enough to join in!  I was absolutely frozen by the end and I know it took Julie, Chris and me most of the day to feel warm again, but, everyone said how much they had enjoyed it and all were looking forward to the next one!

Invitation to our BBQ

Thursday 22nd August, 6.30 – 9.30pm, Broad Street Spiritualist Church, Long Eaton NG10 1LF

We are excited to announce our ‘Celebration BBQ’ this August! 

All our Fibro Active group members and tai chi students are invited to join us in an evening of celebration and thanksgiving for the achievements of our support group, Fibro Active and the personal progress of all our tai chi students over the past year.

In addition to the BBQ there will be a raffle, an informal tai chi practice session whilst supper is being cooked for us and we have four mediums waiting to give you a reading, if you would like one.

We are looking forward to an evening of fun and friendship, it would be lovely to see you all!

Julie and Jane

Don’t wake the alien!

Fibro and CFS cannot be fought in the usual sense. The more you rebel against the symptoms, determined to beat them, the more it will consume you until one day you crash! Your body is on overload and we need to relieve it of all the prolonged stress life might be throwing at us. Think of it like you have an alien inside you. The alien is the symptoms. You have to stay really calm and not wake that alien, otherwise he will punish you with a flare. You now have to be kind to yourself to keep yourself happy! It doesn’t happen overnight and there’s no quick fix. To be able to start your acceptance journey there must be a starting point, but you may not know where that starting point is yet. For me my journey started many years ago when I was 13 3/4 years old, but I didn’t know about it until I was 42. I just knew that every so often I became very ill with one thing or another and I would have to recover and build my fitness up from scratch again. 

The start of my fibro journey

I was off school for 3 to 4 weeks and you could see from my school reports there was a complete change overnight from Julie is doing really well to Julie must learn to concentrate and Julie can do better! It was like the teachers were talking about someone totally different. I found revising for exams almost impossible as I could no longer retain the information, I began to have constant pains in my knees, the Dr’s called it growing pains! I was stopped from doing all the things I loved, sports, I was team Captain and missed out on a visit by Tess Sanderson one of my idols back then because I had been taken off the school team! I had to stop riding horses and I kind of went off the rails for a year as I found myself in limbo. My grades dropped dramatically, and I didn’t make it into art school. Thereafter, there was always something wrong with me and I was beginning to be labelled a hypochondriac by close family members.

Acceptance and Loss

The counselling lead me on a journey of acceptance and loss. I found it very difficult to talk about my inner feelings, so I was set a task to make a collage / picture that depicted my past present and future. I spent weeks trying to put this together. It was a difficult journey. I found myself collecting all my achievements: certificates, ID badges, medals, photos of everything I had done in the past, but I couldn’t fit them all on the canvas and no matter how I tried to arrange them, they just didn’t look right.

Each week I would go back to the counsellor with a photo of my efforts and try to explore the block of creativity. Although I was mourning my past achievements it was like I was divorcing myself as I was still here. Eventually the ideas came to me and I just put all my achievements into storage. I had to accept that used to be me. I was now ready to explore who I currently was. I felt short changed as  I6 years previously, I retrained and completed a degree, in those short years I had achieved so much and worked so hard. Then I had to accept that I needed to work part time, I felt guilty when I finished work at lunch time, it felt like I was wagging school! I had spent the last 25 years working full time. I was the sole bread winner and I was really worried about the drop in income. How would I make ends meet?

I haven’t got any children and my ex-husband had left 3 months before. My job was on the line with, yet another capability review and the landlord had put the house up for sale. It was just me, the dog and the cat. By the time the house was sold I had gone from being a professional to DSS with pets,  I needed a guarantor just to rent another property. I think at that point if someone else had thrown a spanner in the works, I think I would have been sent over the edge.

Things always happen for a reason and all this bad stuff was clearing the path for a better future, although I didn’t realise that at the time. My future was determined by a meeting with a former colleague, Kev Hatton. He met me at Costa for a catch up and was shocked to see me propping up a walking stick and not being able to get out of my seat. The last time he had seen me I was a boxing coach!

Kev was now working for the local council in sports development. He asked if I had any support and suggested looking at starting a support group. At the time I was too poorly but after months of passing emails back and forth, I started to gel with the idea. The seed was sown. I said it wouldn’t work without the whole concept being positive. Being positive for others has given me my direction and 2 ½ years later here we are. I have been able to reinvent myself using a life time of experience and skills I thought I would never use again.

Please join us for our AGM.

This will be a celebration of our second year. The ‘business’ bit of the AGM will be from 11.00am.

From 11.45am – 1.00pm  we will be hosting a coffee morning with homemade cakes.

We look forward to seeing you there – new members are very welcome.